Dear Mum,
The day has finally arrived – the day I’ll marry the love of my life. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling as you wake up this morning. I’m guessing you’re bursting with love, happiness and pride (I know I am!), but part of you also wants to burst out crying for just a few minutes because your little girl is all grown up. Take a deep breath. Smile. This is going to be one amazing day! I know how you love writing lists, so I’ve made one for you with love on my wedding day:
1. It’s OK to cry but try not to cry too much in front of me. I hope that doesn’t sound selfish, but believe me, if you start sobbing with joy, I’ll be following your lead. And puffy eyes are not a good look for me or you!!!
Image by Goldsmith & Co. via Maddy and Dave’s Pop & Scott Workshop Wedding
2. Keep being my Mum and protector. I know you feel emotional but your role as my Mum hasn’t changed even though I’m the bride today. If it’s possible, try to shield me from the chaos or anything I probably don’t need to know about. And please make sure we both actually eat something as we’re getting ready, when we’re not sipping on champagne of course!
Image by Merge Photography via Amy and Rhett’s Three Day Yallingup Wedding Celebration
3. Be calm and cool, please Mum. There may be times when I snap at you today because I’m feeling stressed. I’m sorry in advance. Please don’t take it personally – I’m excited and emotional and I know that you are too.
4. Please help me get dressed! Yes, I’m guessing this may be the last time I make this request. But I’m going to need a hand getting into my gown and fastening all those buttons. That also means you’ll be the first person to see me all dressed up on my wedding day, so remember deep breaths and not too many tears – for the both of us.
Image by Samantha Shannon Photography via Ali & Lachlan’s Somerset Dam Wedding
5. Give Dad a loving pep talk before he walks me down the aisle. I know he’ll be feeling nervous so please remind him I need a hug and kiss and his future son-in-law needs a handshake.
Image by Natalie McComas via Sally and Garnett’s Beautiful Backyard Wedding
6. Save Dad a seat beside you – make sure you’re sitting together during the ceremony. Don’t take any photos, just relax and enjoy it.
7. Speaking of photos, let’s make sure we get plenty of happy snaps together. Everyone tells me the day will fly and I want to make sure we capture every special moment.
Image by Love, Katie and Sarah via Hailey and Mick’s Surprise Melbourne Wedding
8. I know I probably won’t be able to catch up with everyone on the day so do you mind doing some mingling and thanking on my behalf? In between the champagne and dancing of course!
9. Don’t forget to enjoy the day Mum – savour every moment and remember, you have helped make it possible. I want this to be a wonderful day for the both of us.
Image by Lilli Waters of I Got You Babe via Claire and Brad’s Elegant Rainy Day Wedding
10. And finally, thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you and Dad have done and everything you will do for me. I’m the bride today; at the end of it, I’ll also be a wife – but I know I’ll never stop being your daughter.
Ms Chinoiserie Says: What beautiful words – I need a tissue to wipe my eyes. Such a touching insight into the loving, emotional bond between a bride and her mother on her wedding day!
About Melissa Polimeni Marriage Celebrant: I love weddings and I love what I do. As a celebrant, my job is getting to know couples and crafting memorable marriage ceremonies – and that’s always such a pleasure and privilege.
Get the tissues – a beautifully written piece.