How To Involve Your Child In Your Wedding

In today’s modern world of modern families and relationship dynamics, some of us have started our life story and created children and a beautiful family before we are married. So if you have kids, how do you create that ‘new life beginnings’ story with your wedding? Or perhaps your are bringing two families together when you get married? How to involve your child in your wedding day?

Some kids are too young to even realise the importance of the day or to play a big role (some are even too small to walk down the aisle!), but that doesn’t mean they can’t be involved! If they are big enough, your children will look gorgeous in a beautiful flowergirl or pageboy outfit – including them in your bridal party is a magical way to share your wedding day.

Blended vows is another way to celebrate a special moment between mum, dad and children at a wedding. To make blended vows, parents make their lifetime promise to their child, and vice versa. I can guarantee this is bound to bring tears to the eyes of all at your wedding!

As you exchange wedding rings, why not gift your children with their own wedding jewellery along with a lifelong promise. A simple engraved pendant or watch, or even a ‘family medallion’ for all family members is something that can be cherished and worn with pride.

One of my favourite ‘tug at the heartstrings’ ideas is that instead of following tradition and having your father walk you down the aisle, you have your kids meet you half way down the aisle, so they too can escort the beautiful bride to her dazzling groom.

Some other ideas include:

• Family sand ceremony or candle ceremony.

• A family head table instead of bridal table.

• Change wording on your invitations to include the kids.

• Special dances  – following the first dance, share a moment with the children – have them help pick the song too!

• A family bridal cake topper.

As a wedding photographer, I spend a lot of time watching the cherished moments unfold when kids are included in a wedding day, whether they are children of the bride and groom, cousins, nieces and nephews or special family friends. No matter how you do it and no matter the age, when you’ve included the most important people in your wedding day – your kids – it is a moment both you and they will cherish forever.

Image by Jade Norwood Photography

Ms Gingham says: This is one of the best articles I’ve read on this topic. Some really great ideas here Jade!

Jade of Jade Norwood Photography says: “It’s one thing to take pictures but another thing entirely to create works of art for families, couples and weddings.”