Oh, Dad….don’t cry. It’s ok.

Yes, she looks beautiful, doesn’t she? I know. It feels like yesterday that she was a tiny baby – and now, she’s getting married! Where did all those years go? It’s all a bit much to take in, isn’t it? You aren’t giving her up. You just have to share her. She’s happy. She’s really, really happy. And she loves you in exactly the same way she always has. She’s still your little girl.

Ok, that’s better. She needs you now. She’s nervous, too. So straighten your tie, take a deep breath, and tell her you are proud of her. And that she looks beautiful. The music has started. The bridesmaids are in place. Take your daughter’s arm, put your head up and walk her slowly down the aisle. Now, give her a hug, or a kiss, and look your almost-son-in-law in the eye, say something nice and shake his hand, as though you mean it.

If the Giving away is first, say your “I do”, nice and loud. Smile, and then take your seat. At the front. No sneaking off to the back. Your seat should be front row, closest to the aisle. If the Giving Away comes later in the ceremony, the celebrant will need to know where you are!

And don’t you want to see and hear everything? You are the Father of the Bride! You are a very, very important guest – you need to be seen, be photographed and to feel like a part of it all. That was quick! It’s all over and she’s a new bride. A wife! Happily married and excited about being Mrs Brand New Name.

You can almost relax. But not yet. One or two glasses of champagne are ok. But you have to give your speech. And you need to do it well. Not too long. No embarrassing bits, please. No going off on a slightly inebriated tangent. Just a couple minutes of thoughtful anecdotes, a big dose of good luck and support for the newlyweds, and maybe a non-cringeworthy giggle or two.

You can do it. Of course you can.

Images courtesy of I Love Wednesdays

Ms Gingham says: Oh it’s such a huge moment for the poor old Dad! Great advice Robyn.

Robyn Pattison says: “I am quite possibly the happiest marriage celebrant in Sydney! Weddings are my thing! Nothing makes me happier than a really happy couple – every time.”

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